Why should anyone else be the
Master of your Destiny?
It's all about you.
It's all about choices.
Some people talk
a lot about the kind of life they'd like to have.
Other people do something to make it happen. Which
kind are you?
Deciding to Take a Chance on Yourself
About
ten years ago, a friend of mine named Melissa made
a decision that changed her life. Her school counselor
offered her the chance to become an exchange student
in Europe. She would be living in Germany, France,
and Denmark, learning all about each country's customs,
meeting new people, and picking up some of each
language.
No one in Melissa's family had ever traveled far
out of the state they lived in. Her parents were
skeptical, and told her that she should forget it-they
didn't have any extra money to help her with such
foolishness. In fact, no one in Melissa's working-class
neighborhood had ever considered going to Europe.
They just hoped they'd have enough money to pay
the rent each month and buy groceries each week.
Melissa knew it would be easier to stay home, to
keep working part-time and going to school part-time.
"After all," she thought, "who do
I think I am? I really don't know what to expect.
I don't know any foreign languages. I'd probably
just make a fool of myself." If Melissa went
to Europe for a year, she wouldn't be able to work,
and she'd be spending the money she'd worked so
hard to save. It would be her first time ever away
from her family and friends, too. What if she got
homesick? And the thing that scared her most was
that when she came back from her adventure, she'd
be broke. She'd have to live at home and rely on
her parents until she could get a job and save enough
to move out.
Still,
she couldn't quite forget the idea. Why shouldn't
it be her? After going endlessly back and forth,
she finally decided to take the risk. She could
always come back early if she hated it. She called
her school counselor, who was delighted when Melissa
said "Sign me up!"
The counselor was about the only one who seemed
happy. Melissa's family offered no support, emotionally
or financially, and her friends just laughed when
she said she was going to Europe. They finally realized
she was serious when she closed out her savings
account and asked the counselor to drive her to
the airport. "We'll see you in a couple of
weeks," her dad laughed as she walked to the
car.
Lessons
Learned
The trip began poorly. The airline bumped Melissa's
entire group, and told them they'd have to wait
until the next day to leave. Although she had never
flown before, Melissa decided if she didn't leave
that very day, she'd chicken out completely. She
went from one ticket counter to another until she
found a connection, spending 10 hours in the airport
before leaving on her first-ever flight. It took
so long and she was so nervous that she began to
wonder if she should have listened to her parents
and her friends after all. When she arrived in Germany
the next afternoon, she was exhausted. She guessed
that the weird sleep-deprived feeling she was experiencing
was what people called jet lag. Oddly, it pleased
her somehow to know first-hand what it was. No one
back home knew what jet lag felt like! She handed
the address of her new apartment to the taxi driver,
and paid him in Euros when he dropped her off. Then
she slept for a long, long time.
The
next day, Melissa began exploring her new neighborhood.
She wasn't nervous at all. She found her way to
the nearest travel agency and bought a train pass.
Nearly everyone spoke English and seemed helpful,
and the trains made it easy to get around.
The
next week, she ventured further-to Switzerland.
She went alone because the other students in her
group were apprehensive about traveling outside
the "base" country. Melissa wasn't exactly
radiating confidence herself, but she wanted to
see as much as she could during her time in Europe,
and the only way to do that was to summon up her
courage and go. She loved learning what was beyond
the sheltered world she had left behind. She found
that all she really needed was common sense and
a map. From then on, when Friday came, Melissa was
packing her bag for another destination. She saw
the ruins at Rome, the Eiffel Tower, and even the
great pyramids in Egypt. Sometimes she felt like
she must be dreaming-that she'd wake up from this
new feeling of independence, freedom, accomplishment
and success. But she was wide awake, and enjoying
every minute.
Melissa's year of travel was a year of revelation
for her. As she studied different cultures and met
so many new people, she realized she had always
had an adventurous spirit and a thirst for knowledge.
And if Melissa had decided to stay in the US, she
would never have met her future husband.
She helped him run his restaurant in Berlin-a new
enterprise they enthusiastically shared, and with
great success. They stayed in Germany for another
year before they returned to the States. As it turned
out, Melissa was far from being broke!
So
what's the lesson here? People who don't take risks
don't go far. People who let others make their decisions
for them are rarely happy. And fear is what
keeps 99% of people from leading fulfilled, successful
lives. You don't have to let that happen
to you. Figure out what you want, and then go for
it!
What
You Need To Know
You
should be steering your own ship. While there will
always be some factors that are out of your hands,
it makes little sense to worry about what you can't
change. Instead, worry about what you can
control - you and your actions
and your thinking.
Points
To Remember:
Be
receptive to all possibilities. Most new ideas sounded
crazy the first time they were introduced.
Fear
of failure can be very powerful. It can cause you
to stay in a rut, to procrastinate, and to miss
out on opportunities to change your life. If you
are dominated by fear, learn to be brave.
Realize
that risk-taking is a necessary part of success.
Learning to negotiate risks leads to more self-confidence
and more triumphs along the road to the life you
would like to lead.
Always
be on the lookout for new opportunities.
Define success for yourself. Most people believe
it's about finding inner peace, satisfaction and
emotional balance, as well as financial stability.
You can't achieve those unless you start thinking
out of the box. You have to be willing to take some
risks. You must be willing to step out of your "comfort
zone." This applies to business as well as
to your personal life.
Some Of
The Pillars Of Success:
Plan
your work, and work your plan!
Make
every effort to be the best you can be at what you
do. Don't compare yourself to others. Set your own
goals.
When
you make a commitment, stick to it!
Acknowledge
that disappointments are part of life. Instead of
allowing setbacks to keep you from moving ahead,
overcome them and forge ahead. This will make you
stronger.
Remember
that every experience, whether good or bad, can
be a learning experience. It's all in what you take
from it.
Live
each day as if it were your last; have no regrets.
Some
Final Words
..
So
have you decided yet if you're a talker or
a doer? Do you wait for things
to happen to you at the whim of others, or do you
make them happen? Are you just thinking
about how great your future could be if only...?
There is no better time than right now to stop just
thinking about making a change that will
secure your future success and time. Right now is
the time to do something about it. Starting
a home based business is one of the easiest first
steps you can take to begin working on your financial
independence.
You may have heard people derisively say, "Oh,
she's only looking out for number one." But
be honest. If you don't look out for yourself first,
who will? Are you ready to take control of your
own destiny-to look out for number one? I can help
you find the path to success, but you need to make
the decision to take the first step down that path.
Your first step will take you just a few minutes.
Take the time to fill out the form below to get
started on your new path to success today. Like
my friend Melissa, you will discover a whole new
way of life that you never imagined-and a sense
of independence, confidence and accomplishment that
is beyond your fondest dreams.
Sincerely,